Parents never mean to bring harm to their children. But in the real world, parents give much attention to such issues as career, money, divorce, midlife dating, and social life. Without ever meaning to, parents may have emotionally neglected a large percentage of junior high, high school, and college students. Students who have been emotionally neglected try to protect their wounds by pushing parents away. Wounded teenagers who push parents away also push away the faith, values, and ethics of their parents.
On the other hand, many parents and teenagers believe they have a great relationship and do not want to lose what they have. In fact, they want to take their relationship to the next level.
On average, teenagers who become emotionally disconnected from their parents will make grave mistakes when choosing a spouse and beginning a marriage. On average, teenagers who become emotionally disconnected from their parents eventually will become emotionally disconnected from their own children.
The hearts of parents and teenagers can be turned toward each other in 30 powerful evenings. Families can find the closeness that frees students to become healthy young adults who build lifetime marriages and rear wonderful grandchildren.
To strengthen the connection between their hearts, one parent and one student commit to spending 10 minutes together for 30 evenings. Each evening they go to a room with a closed door. By candlelight they draw out the cards for that evening. Following the instructions on the cards, they say and do those things that have the greatest power to deepen relationships. This experience is designed for students junior high through college.
To give you an idea of what each night of the 30 Days experience is like, we have provided the information for the cards on day 15. Click the image to the left to get started.
Even though I have lots of responsibilities, you've noticed I spend some time just with you. That isn't out of a sense of duty. It is motivated by love. Let me explain why I want to spend time just with you ...
|We Get Enough Time Together||We Don't Get Enough Time Together|
|I'm thankful you love me enough to spend time with me. To be honest, I'm happy with the amount of time we spend together. I can tell I'm important to you because of the time you give to being with me. Your spending quality time with me causes me to feel ...||I'm thankful you love me enough to spend time with me. The fact you're important to me makes me sad when we don't get enough time together. I know you don't intend this, but when responsibilities get all your attention rather than me, I feel unimportant. Let me explain how I feel ...|
|Student Said We Get Enough Time Together||Student Said We Don't Get Enough Time|
|I'm pleased you feel we get about the right amount of time together. Because of my many duties, I have to work hard to protect the time I spend with you. I'm glad you can tell how important you are to me. What I want for the future is ...||It makes me sad you feel we don't spend enough time together. I never would intentionally want you to feel unimportant to me. Just hearing how important this is to you makes me want to change some things. We do need more time for just the two of us. What I want for the future is ...|
Children need to see parents choosing to spend time with them. In the same way, parents need to see students choosing to spend time with them. I know it's normal for students to begin spending more time away from home and parents. But there's a time when having you near would show I still am important to you. That time is ...
I'm excited about your taking some time from your duties to spend more time just with me. And I'm excited about taking some time from my friends and from running around to spend time with you. The Bible says, "Come near to God and He will come near to you" (James 4:8). I want the same thing for the two of us.
Pray with me as I ask God to keep you and me close for a lifetime.